Accepting Your Loss: First Step in Grief Healing

There comes a time in your healing journey when you feel ready to accept that you’re grieving. It is the hardest phase in the unpredictable grief healing journey. First you accept that you have lost your loved one. That they will not be coming back, and that you will not hear from them anymore. Accepting your loss doesn’t mean that the pain goes away, it does not. It also doesn’t mean that you’re okay with your loss. You’ll never be okay with losing a loved one.

Accepting your loss is the stage when healing begins to take shape in your life. You are basically coming to terms with your new reality, and you are accepting that you can’t change anything. You are learning to live with the truth of your loss and to exists as your whole self in this truth. Acceptance of loss in a grief journey brings about closure in the chapter of grief and opens a new chapter in your healing process. That new chapter is called moving forward. You can now start engaging in the “what next” and “how do I carry on” questions. This is a vital part of grief healing.

You move toward acceptance by speaking the truth aloud about their loss can help your mind to understand and acknowledge what your heart already knows. It creates a state of emotional congruence between your heart and your mind and this is what will eventually bring you peace. When you let yourself to openly feel your pain as it is and connect with its vibration, you’re essentially allowing your unconscious self to come to terms with it. Finding meaning in your loss also helps with acceptance. Lastly practice stillness and mindfulness to connect with the presence. Acceptance your loss helps you to let go of the illusion that life remains the same, you don’t let go of the memories of your loves one. The memories will stay with you forever.